Why Photograph Weddings?

Photography, for me, is a process. A life long process of finding my voice. I know it must seem odd, if you think about it, to use a vocal metaphor to describe a silent medium but it works for me so deal with it.

Part of that process is trying to understand why I’m drawn to photograph those things that find their way in front of my camera. Sometimes it makes sense. Street performers for instance. That’s easy. They are interesting.Santa Cruz Photographer

This process is what drives photographers to embark on photographic projects that last decades, even lifetimes. When will I be finished photographing street performers? I don’t see an end in sight.

But weddings? Why weddings?

Confession. I don’t look at wedding photography. I don’t study other wedding photographer’s work. Weddings are ubiquitous and it is hard enough to be original in capturing them, I don’t want to pollute my visual vocabulary with other peoples work. But I do sneak peaks once in a while and what I read a lot on the blogs is how so and so photographer is “just so in love with love” and that is why they photograph weddings. I have know idea what it means to be in love with love nor can I conceive of how that would at all be a motivation for giving up a perfectly good Saturday to work your butt off photographing a wedding.

I went to school for a very long time just to end up making a living as a plumber. My folks think I waisted all that time (and money) just so I could have a blue collar job. Maybe so. I studied, among other things, Anthropology. It’s a study in people; how they live, why they live that way, etc. It’s about people’s stories. I also studied Communications (you know, public speaking all dressed up). Again, story telling. Both also came with a large dose of Philosophy and Meditation on the how and why of life.

The things I’ve taken with me from my university years are those key things above. Maybe I was drawn to those disciplines for the same reason I’m drawn to photography. The inclination to meditate on life, human nature…. Who we are. Why we do what we do. I also write. A lot. When I write it’s only after a long meditation on some aspect of life and writing it down is the final step in the process of grappling with it. (If this blog post isn’t long winded enough for you, you can find some of that HERE)

Ok, what’s my point.

Oh yeah, weddings. Why do I photograph weddings?

Think of it in terms of those decades long projects. Wedding photography, for me, is another project. Another part of the process. Excuse me but I’m going to get a bit pretentious… I photograph weddings as a form of meditation on the American experience.

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I think that is why I’m not looking to photograph a wedding every Saturday. I can’t conceive of something like that. I don’t think I could get my head around all those weddings and glean anything remotely meaningful from the millions of frames. But a few weddings a year. Say, ten weddings. Ten weddings a year. Big ones, small ones. Traditional, modern, vintage, weddings in churches and weddings in backyards. Ten weddings a year. Yeah, that I can get my head around.

Courtnay and Josh: Maria’s Vineyard Wedding

This is what happens when amazing light and a great moment intersect in a split second…

California Winery Wedding

San Francisco Engagement: Andrew and Julie

San Francisco Wedding Photographer

I had a lot of fun with these two…

Steph and Kieth at Big Earl’s BBQ

Life is always a mix of light and dark, happy and sad. Gonna get a little personal here.

Here’s how the last year and a half have played out for Becky and I.

The Autumn before last Becky’s mom was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor. I had been planning on proposing to Becky already, and had the rings. Becky took me out to dinner for my birthday and I popped the question at dinner. We wanted to have our wedding quickly hoping Marilyn, Becky’s mom, would make it to our wedding.

Marilyn passed away March 7, we were married June 25.

On our honeymoon we bought and started renovating our dream house.

At the same time Kieth, Becky’s brother was opening a BBQ joint with Marilyn and Becky’s dad, “Big Earl.” The idea was for Big Earl and Kieth to smoke the meat and Marilyn would serve her amazing hand made cobblers and pies. After Marilyn passed they pushed on to open the restaurant, mean while Kieth met Steph, and fell in love. They had hoped to open the restaurant, Big Earl’s, in February.

That Christmas Big Earl became ill and was rushed to the hospital. He passed away a few days later.

Kieth and Steph were married March 11. A week later they opened Big Earl’s BBQ.

I had the honor of photographing Kieth and Steph’s wedding at Big Earl’s the week before it opened.

As a family it’s been a hell of a year. Pockets of joy in the midst of sadness.

The wedding was simply beautiful. As I said, the ceremony and reception were at Big Earl’s. The wedding party got ready at the Denair Gas Light Theater. You could feel Big Earl and Marilyn smiling down on us all.

It was an emotional day for all of us.

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The Grand Opening at Earl’s was a big hit with people lined up out the door and it hasn’t really slowed down. Kieth makes some of the best smoked meats this side of Kansas City, Steph makes the pies. If you are ever in the Central Valley, check out Big Earl’s. Try the brisket.

Derrick and Elizabeth

Contrast

I love the contrast in body language in these two images… They are pushing him to the front, meanwhile the ladies are all leaning forward

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